Tuesday, March 20, 2007

A bit of clarification seems to be needed...

My previous post mentioned my nonchalant attitude toward pornography, adult novelties, and adult clubs. Apparently, this is extremely ghastly to some of you and I have actually received some rather preachy emails about the sinful nature of these things. My response is two-fold. First, I can honestly say that the opinions of others rarely affect my personal life. I will always happily accept advice and even criticism, but that certainly doesn't mean that I will follow through on it. I live my life to the very best of my abilities and no one can make me feel otherwise. My second response is to soften the words I used in my frustration yesterday. I admittedly left the door wide open for responses and even some personal attacks based on some poor phrasing. I will clarify by saying that I am not by any means referencing materials that include overtly immoral and/or illegal activities. As far as I am concerned, the activities I am referring to can be used to invigorate a sex life, entice an intimate moment, or improve sexual performance. Research has shown that couples who are able to utilize these tools TOGETHER enjoy a much more vibrant and satisfying sex life. One the other hand, these tools have been proven to destroy relationships when used secretively by only one partner. It is the latter that is the problem in my marriage right now although the former was my original plan. I can, at least, admit to the use of the grittier and possibly more offensive terms in my previous post, but the sentiment is the same.

Thankfully, the negativity has only come to me directly via email. I am very grateful for the support of those who have responded here. It really, really, REALLY helps to let loose about what's going on in my life and hear a few words of kindness and strength right now.

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